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This morning as I was listening in on the radio while driving to work, there was a discussion that asked, “what is it that a woman desires in a man?” The discussion also asked, “what is it ladies, that make you go wild for a man?” Obviously, only calls from ladies were taken. The comments were very interesting.
One woman said that loved to see a sweating man, one who just finished working out. However, she further stated that he wouldn’t be able to touch her in his sweaty state. Ooo-k.
Another woman said that she loved when men opened doors for her, “old school style.” I didn’t know that this “style” has gone away. I thought this was all about being a gentleman.
But the comment that troubled me most was, “I want my man to be educated. I love an educated man.” Hmm.
What Does It Mean to want an Educated Man or Woman?
When people say this I have to always ask, “how do you measure such a thing?” I want to know if you measure it by formal education level? Number of college degrees? Depth of conversation? Or, some other means? Does educated man or woman mean smart man or woman? Is it automatically assumed that an educated man or woman can feed your intellectual need? Does education equal intellect?
So, the question of the day is, “what does it mean to you if you were to say that you want your man or woman to be educated?”
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I think this particular ladies definition is that of a man with at least a college education, if not a Master’s or Doctorate degree as well. Hence, a very literal definition.
I doubt this woman would accept an educated man with only a GED. Of course, there are plenty of educated men without college degrees, but from this discussion, not for her.
I want an educated man with common sense (street smarts)…..case in point, at those pay for parking machines, a friend (I use the term loosely) was attempting to pay for his parking. The machine showed a picture of how to insert your credit card which I admit was different from the norm or the black strip on the back facing down.
This so called friend was inserting the card every which way except for turning the thing so that the black strip faced up. Now I know some people without an education (college) would have figured it out, but I mean if you know you have money on your card and you try the two ways of having the strip face down to the right and to the left, it should come naturally to flip the card and put the strip facing up if the other 2 ways with the strip down doesn’t work. Sigh. So when I say educated, I need street smarts and book smarts because if dude did attend college and still needed my help, then I would have requested a man with the college education and the street smarts. Both are necessary in this day and age and one without the other just won’t do.
Gina. My, my, my. That’s all I can say about that situation. That’s something that even a college degree can’t teach.
It shows your driven, that you want more and you’ll work hard to get it.
This is a tricky thing to define. The main thing is that a person must be grounded in reality and be able to think critically.
There are basic facts about the world that adults must know. An adult must know the states in the US and who is president and at least some of the senators and representatives and what they stand for–have some understanding of how the country works and what forces are involved. An adult should have some idea of the broader world–able to at least find a country with whom we are at war on a globe. An adult should have an idea about religions and cultures practiced around the world. An adult should have a working idea about history and science as opposed to religion–no, we did not suddenly just appear and electricity is not an unknown magic.
It doesn’t necessarily relate to the number of years one spends in school but to having a curiosity about the world that drives a person to learning.
To you, Mary, it seems, that you’re heavily into politics, science, geography, and history, among other things, from what I’ve experience so far from your loving comments.
Educated men or woman don’t mean a lot to me ,as long as we can have a good conservation and they try not to get above me.
To me, an educated person is someone who uses their knowledge & their abilities: I once knew a man with 3 degrees and 150 IQ: He pushes a broom for a living at a hospital in Bangor ME- sad.
I find it curious that this woman used the term, educated man. I don’t know whether she means educated in a formal classroom, intelligent through life experience, or perhaps holding a degree which would allow him the possibilty of a decent wage. I could speculate about this for hours. My idea of educated would be someone who has finished at least enough classroom time to be literate and hold a decent conversation on a number of subjects. The problem with that is, there are so many levels of education, I would be hard pressed to say it involves an associate degree, masters, whatever. I’d much rather have a man who was wise……well educated or not.
An educated person can have a degree but still not have any common sense. Education means different things to different people I guess. There are a lot of smart people who are self taught and do not have a degree.
An educated man/woman is someone who is smart enough to know how to keep you.
To me it means having common sense and using proper grammar!
A person who has college education and common sense. A professional that is working in a good job.
To me it means someone who has attained their goals in life and is socially polished.
In the most literal sense, it means that “I want someone who can take care of me”. An educated man/women is directly related to a good job, nice house, a huge car, and what not.
In another sense, it might mean “I do not want someone stupid!”.
I like a smart woman. And I mean that. Not educated because I know some college grads who are dumber than a plank. Not to say they all are. Smarts though is like they actually use their head to think about things and analyze themselves and their world. My wife wants to be a nurse and so sh’es going back to school to do that. That’s smart. But if she didn’t want to do that, she’s still smart because she challenges me and makes me want to be a better person.
I want an educated man who has common sense and is fairly prudent financially
Educated, meaning, I want someone with a moral intelligence.
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I would say someone who understands proper grammar, speaks correctly, and reads.
To me, it means someone who can challenge me. I adore reading and knowledge, and having a smart man is necessary to keep my mind on its toes at all times.
So an educated man to you, Amy, seems to be one who keeps you thinking or invites a new perspective to your existing line of thought. Good for you.
For me it means intelligent conversation, a wide range of subjects they are knowledgeable about, being well read.
Someone I can actually talk to, who’s on my level. To me a smart person isn’t just book smart but someone who has life skills and experience. Someone who is interested in lots of different subjects, someone I can learn from!
I share these thoughts. Cool.
I want someone who is willing to listen to all sides of an issue and has learned how to learn.
To me it means a person who a has college education and common sense.
An educated man or woman in my opinion doesn’t necessarily have a degree from a fancy university. It is a person who has common sense and knows how to take care of themselves.
Bachelors degree.
To me it means a person that has common sense and also knows how to be respectful of others. A college degree can’t teach you how to be considerate and kind to others.
To me, an educated woman is one who has deep thoughts, and can keep up with my word games and science references. Perhaps most importantly, an educated woman has a passion that she is good at or knows a lot about. Without a specialty or specific interest, people are kind of two dimensional.
That means I want someone well read and informed.
When I decided to get married and settle down, I wanted an educated man (without student debt) because educated men tend to earn more.
I want someone who wants to be the best that they can be and that means striving to learn.
My wife and I had this conversation awhile back about what an educated man was to her. Her interpretation is a man who has had some formal education regardless of the depth of it. Her main draw, however, is a man that can introduce her to new things and teach her something. Thankfully, I’m both
Someone who seeks to alleviate their ignorance on a broad front. Narrowly educated can be as bad as not educated at all! And if someone remains willfully in the dark that is SUCH a turn off.
It means you want someone with intellectual curiosity…the more you learn, the more you realize you DON’T know everything!
I feel it means someone that has motivation and skills for sucess.
Someone who can and is willing to communicate with me.
When I started dating my (now) husband, one thing I liked about him was that he was educated – literally, as in a graduate of Architectural school, and educated with common sense, because of the experiences he had in life. He had an open mind, and could carry on a conversation about most anything.
It mean’s at least a Bachelor’s degree from a top 50 university to me. It also means someone who is well read and keeps up to date on politics, religion, economics. Sadly from reading reviews, & comments on articles on the internet our country is sorely in need of an education. There is no excuse. We have libraries and free public education something lacking in many parts of the world. Many people are just too lazy to take advantage of these services
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It means that I have wide and diverse amount of knowledge and also the ability and skill to think critically.
If I said I wanted an educated woman it would mean someone with a strong mind able to discuss many things have a career and not just a job and of course some type of post secondary education but I wouldn’t lol I like down to earth hard workers like myself blue collar makes this world go round white collar may manage it but sweat gets things done.
I want them to have a degree
Well, I’ve had both as far as formally educated and then uneducated (except in the street smart department). I would guess that an educated man/women would mean someone that could carry on a conversation without injecting expletives or bodily function noises in order to entertain you. Someone that has manners and doesn’t stare off into space when you talk, but would actually listen to your point of view in return.
Someone with at least a high school diploma (if they can’t finish high school, then they show they can not finish anything!) and common sense & courtesy.
It drives me crazy to see poor grammer and poor writing. An educated person displays proper use of English. Always.
To me it means that I want a man that I can hold an intelligent conversation with.
To me, educated means that they ‘paid attention’ in school (however many years they went…) and continues to stay abreast of current events and world happenings. It means someone who can carry on a conversation logically, and who can make their point in a clear, concise way…and who does so in a grammatically correct manner. This person is well-read, and understands the ‘life lessons’ that he encounters in every day situations.
Romeo, all very interesting comments and responses… like many others, i’ve found that rarely do people expressly define what their specific meaning of an educated man or woman is, …so I will try and answer from a perspective of why it may be important to be educated in the first place. From a “non empirical” standpoint… not supported by fact, but simple routine observations, … I would imagine that many people want their mates to be educated for many reasons… most to supplement (but not overshadow) their own individual goals for success and security in some fashion or another. Why else would the level of education of another matter… especially when the person with or without a certain level of education is obviously content with the level of education that they have achieved for themselves at that time in their lives right? Otherwise, wouldn’t they continue on in their lives progressing in a particular educational path or another until they reached success as they define it for themselves?
When someone says that they want an educated man or woman for a mate, I would assert that quietly observing their level of accomplishment in that area of their lives could generally give you an indication of what their expressed expectation means. However, there always seems to be that exception… in this case, that individual man or woman that state that they want an educated mate, but are not willing to become educated to the level that they are even requesting of others. They generally do not define what they mean, … because frankly they can’t. In a joking fashion, I would submit that expressing or addressing why a particular person needs their mate to be “educated” would help them understand specifically the level that they are seeking …. at the end of the day, love is what matters…right?
An educated man or woman to me you ask? Simply someone that loves enough to desire to continue on learning when necessary to support whatever dreams they may have for the future….and that they consider, as much as practical, their choice’s impacts on other people when doing so.
Blackice, thank you for your comment. I believe that a lot of people confuse their partner’s education level with the level of intellect desired. Two people with a Master’s degree may not reach the same conclusion if the argument is not degree related. However, two people who have a love for learning and speaking respectfully through problems may be on the same intellectually level.
I don’t believe that love is what matters at the end of the day. One can love someone who they are intellectually frustrated with. Love will keep them together, but there will always be an underlying shred of misery within the relationship.
It means to be well rounded and worldly.
shows that you will work hard
I would think it meant he had been to college. I’ve been to college and I don’t believe it makes a person smart. Life and experience does that.
Someone who is hard working and not afraid to learn to make themselves better.
It means I want a man who I am able to converse with at length on subjects with which we are both familiar. However, that man does not have to be previously educated in the same areas that I am educated in. As long as he is willing to learn about my subjects of interest (and I am willing to learn about his subjects of interests), the actual education can be gained along the way.
That they have finished college.
To be with someone that constantly wants to learn due to a htirst for knowledge being college educated doesn’t always mean intelligent.
I think it means someone that can challenge you and make you think about things. Also someone who can spell and not text spell!!!
to me its more about someone who is logical and has common sense, regardless of their level of education. although a good education is always nice
knowledgeable and knows how to speak
shows you want to be somewhere in life
It means that the person is well-versed, knowledgeable and logical, not only in facts but practical virtues.
Someone who is aware that their is a world beyond what they know and is willing to learn and grow over time
Educated means different things to different people.For me, educated is someone who has common sense and social intelligence. I also think being educated is a process, someone who is educated should be consuming all kinds of texts and being aware of what they can learn from their experience-past, present, and future.
Education, at least for me, is a code word for having intellectual curiosity. Demonstrating an eagerness for knowledge, combined with the ability to work hard (ie, achieve your degree). While it’s definitely possible to have those qualities without a college degree (and not everyone who has a college degree is automatically imbued with those characteristics), I still think it’s a useful shorthand.
To me this means either university educated or self-educated (the latter through reading or doing something in a specialized field).
i want someone who can think on their own and hold in-depth conversations
It means I want someone who loves learning and is constantly learning throughout their life.
Book smart enough to have a comfortable conversation with but that doesn’t need to be from a college education.
A man who first of all can hold a simple conversation, an intelligent conversation, a man who has confidence and knows what he is talking about. I like to think an educated man has gone to college and has earned a degree.
I want someone who has a college degree
I think it means something different to everyone, Having been married twice, first husband with 2 masters degrees, being “smart” does not equate to academics. It’s more about common sense, compassion and real knowledge.
I interpret that as someone wanting a significant other that has a good head on their shoulders and are just intelligent.
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To me, it means I want someone who is well informed & can make good decisions.
Just a man that makes an attempt in life to learn more and be smart with their decision making.
An educated person is intelligent and classy
I want people to look up to me for guidance.
It means that I challenge myself to critical thinking and allow myself to consider all contingencies instead of allowing others to think for me.
To me, depth of conversation. My dad never graduated from college but he worked his way to district manager at UPS and he is a very successful and smart man.
For me it is someone who knows who they are and what they want out of life.
When I hear that I don’t think college degree, but someone who works to get what they want in life. Someone who is driven, not a couch potato
Someone who isn’t afraid to expand their mind and educate theirselves.
I think educated means just that – someone who has been through schooling, probably beyond a high school level. What someone means when they say “educated,” though, varies depending on who’s doing the talking. They could mean, literally, educated – or they could mean smart. One can be educated without being smart, and smart without being educated. In my opinion, smart is more important. My husband went into the Navy after high school and didn’t get his college degree until he was in his 40′s. Now he’s both smart and educated.
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To me it is someone who is aware of the world and the people in it
An educated person knows how to communicate simple and complex ideas with ease.
It is a balance. Life is a lesson not teachable with just books, pictures and pie charts. Educated comes from a triad of things, what can be learned from a book, what can be learned from other people, and what can be learned from mistakes we made. Only then I believe you can call someone educated.
When I hear someone use the phrase “educated person,” be it man or woman, I usually assume they mean someone with a Bachelor’s Degree at least. Yet, I’ve met quite a few people with a B.A. or B.S. who I didn’t find very smart at all.
I learned early on that degrees do not translate to integrity; education means someone who is compassionately rational and rationally compassionate.
To me, it means someone who is intelligent, as well as having common sense!
To me, and an educated person is someone willing to be compassionate and care about the plight of others….not someone always looking to win the argument
I want someone who questions, who listens and who appreciates another person’s opinion.
Someone who is knowledgeable and has common sense too
Someone who can speak proper english and has graduated.
I would say for me that means has a general knowledge of current events and common sense. Thanks!
It could mean different things to different people. My guess would be someone who has at least a bachelors. However, for some people they might mean an educated person who looks to science and logic to find answers instead of feelings or assumptions. Could also be a sugar coated way of saying she wants to be financially taken care of. Or just that she wants someone with common sense, regardless of how many years they spent in school.
An educated man or woman can be define in many ways. To me an educated person is someone who has common sense and general knowledge.
It means they can carry on a conversation over lots of topic
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To me it is someone who can carry on a conversation and always teach me something new, whether it be something that can be learned in a book, or just a life lesson.
to me it means that i want a person who can hold an intelligent conversation, about various topics! Someone who I can discuss life and theory with!
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I would want someone that is smart, has common sense and you can have a decent conversation with
I think it means a college degree.
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I don’t need someone to have degrees to be interesting. I know that having them doesn’t mean a person is smart and of course there are smart people who don’t have degrees. There is more than one way to get educated. Someone who has common sense, an open mind, forms their own opinions and learns about things themselves without taking someone else’s word for it works for me.
common sense, someone who can see when they are wrong
I like a man that is smart & has self control & common sense. These things make an “educated” man to me.
I feel an educated man knows the difference between want and need. Need I say more. lol
Someone who can tell up from down, and be self sufficient…
I definitely want an educated man but not necessarily someone who is just book smart. Ideally, someone who I can constantly learn from, in every situation.
Loaded question there, Romeo! Not sure where to start, so I’ll just dig in with the first thought that comes to mind. An educated man to me doesn’t have much to do with degrees or fancy titles or pieces of paper hanging on the wall at *all.*
Why do I say that? Well for one thing, I know a brilliant doctor with all kinds of “papers” on the wall, awards, publications, etc. Now that’s vital to the patients, of course, but in “real life” situations, he’s often helpless as a wee puppy dog and never took time to learn many of the basics. Sure, med school took up all the time, but… there has to be a balance.
So anyhow, back to your topic… an educated man is one who will know how to handle everyday life situations that come along. This would be everything from knowing how to bring in an income that will support himself comfortably (or his family if he has one) to instinctively knowing what to do if a pipe breaks or he gets bitten by a snake or there’s an attempted break-in at 3 a.m. without panicking. (Okay, extreme examples but I guess what I’m trying to say is that an “educated” man will have common sense when it comes to life issues.)
An educated man will know how to treat a woman. He’ll know how to settle disputes with his words and not his fists.
Bottom line, “educated” to me means having the knowledge to get through life with the admiration and respect of people who cross his path… the types of things that 2 or 4 or 8 years of college simply can’t buy. College education is a nice “bonus” but certainly nowhere near all that matters.
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Wow, Katharina. I agree with you whole-heartedly. You are right in that the question is open-ended. As you can read from the comments, the answer is has a different meaning to different people. Clearly, it’s also based on one’s experience and maturity level.
Yes, I enjoyed reading the responses… the world would be soooo boring without diversity!
I believe it means a person who is able to finish a task for example getting a college education
Someone with a college degree
college degree
To me this means an educated person is someone who uses their knowledge & their abilities. It doesn’t necessarly mean a college degree it could be someone who is educated in life. I would rather have a partner who has a great personality and can make me laught.
I want them to be hardworking and be able to provide for me. In order to do this without an education one would have to be extremely motivated. With an education there are more opportunities for you thus this would be easier and less stressful.
My view of “educated” is that a person has taken the time to pay attention to the world around them, has opened themselves up to new experiences and new knowledge, has cultivated a passion for the topics or pursuits that consume them, and has been an active rather than a passive force in life.
Personally, I think college educated.
My view of ‘educated’ involves a lot of things–having a college degree comes immediately to mind, but I have known way too many degreed people (male & female) whose education stopped right there, and had no common sense at all. Therefore, I feel that common sense is a part of education, without which a person cannot be considered fully educated. I have also known people who were not educated at all in the ‘book’ sense (my parents come to mind, since both of them had to leave school during the depression to help their families, but continued to learn throughout their lives and were much more knowledgeable about the world and life than many others). Being educated also includes realizing that one’s education never really stops–I am in my 70s and am still learning something all the time!
I have common sense and can spell!
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A higher education is a start (BS, MBA etc) but included with that would be common sense, knowledge of the world (not just US or your state etc) and knowledge of our higher purpose (why we are here, constantly growing/learning/progressing).
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someone who’s able to navigate the real world and the business world.
a woman that has an education that will make her have a stable career in the future
When you say an “educated man” the only thing I think that is synonymous with is having formal education – college and beyond. I would never say that because I went to college and know a lot of STUPID men who graduated with degrees! I’d rather have say I want a smart/bright/open minded man, when it comes to brains.
When someone says educated, I want someone that is open minded, smart, willing to work hard. I also want someone that has knowledge of the real world and street smart.
When I say educated man i mean someone who has intelligence, common sense, and has knowledge of the “real” world. To me you don’t have to have a degree or diploma, just one of the other things I mentioned.
For me it means an intelligent person who has a grasp on reality and can get along in the world in many situations.
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For me it’s doesn’t have to be somebody with a higher education just somebody who can carry on a decent conversation and doesn’t get their news updates from TMZ
It means you want someone who is knowledgeable (doesn’t necessarily mean a college degree)
To me it means somebody who is intelligent and has common sense. A degree isn’t necessary.
has common sense.
I believe that it means you want someone who is smart and wants to succeed in all aspects of life!
Personally, I think it’s more important to have someone you can relate to and communicate with.
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I prefer an educated partner because they usually succeed in life in general.
Someone who can think for himself. And enjoys learning new things.
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In my opinion I think of it as someone who went to college and majored in anything besides partying. It doesn’t necessarily imply that you are a Yale graduate, just someone who has put some effort forth in his life and can carry on an intelligent conversation.
It means that you have the freedom to choose to do what you want in life.
To me it means someone that can hold an intelligent conversation and is open to different interpretations other than his own.
I would definitely like to be with an educated woman. I think that it means that she would always be striving to make herself a better person. Part of that is having an opinion of them own, but also being open to other peoples opinions and have the mental logic to actually change her own opinion if she finds hers is wrong. I think a lot of it comes down to having good logical skills really. I just have little patience for people who just refuse to listen to reason.
I feel it does not necessarily mean college- educated, but a man that knows enough to have educated opinions and responses, that loves to learn and speaks with confidence, not arrogance.
Thanks for the giveaway…I would say that an educated person for me would have a bachelors degree at the very least, as far as academics (or the equivalent); be conversant in the Western Canon of literature i.e. the Great Books; have a good grasp of US & World History; is literate geographically i.e. find “Laos” on a map; is familiar with the basic concepts of both the physical & biological sciences; is engaged / conversant with national & international issues facing the nation currently; reads a national daily newspaper every day i.e. NY Times; can cook a meal, etc., etc., etc.
It means someone who has street smarts as well as book smarts. They can carry on an educated conversation.
For me an educated man can have an intelligent conversation about life in general and can offer interesting insight into specific topics.
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I think it means that you’re not just educated (college degree, etc.), but well balanced. Just because you sat in a college classroom for 4+ years doesn’t mean you can survive at a real job or in real life relationships!
It means that I can hold an intelligent and meaningful conversation with them.
Educated in the sense of being able to function in life without that little annoying thing called ignorance. Who needs someone who goes through life, being exposed to different people and situations, and never learning a thing? It’s not just about book smarts — it’s about compassion.
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“Education is an admirable thing, but it is well to remember from time to time that nothing is worth knowing can be taught.”
IMO, too many people look at some one that is college educated as the perfect mate. A lot of people are quick to ask ” do you have a degree”? As if that in itself defines our intelligence. College limits our experience of really knowing. It goes beyond the classroom setting. If we wait on the classroom to teach us, we won’t know much really. I have learned so much by living, observing others, and reading. I am not against a man that chooses not attend an institution that usually requires debt. True education is priceless.
I just want an man that can inspire me and vice versa. For us to engage in stimulating conversations and I would love for him to be able to teach me. And yes, I do want him to be diverse in topics. If he does not know all 44 Presidents ,that is fine. But if he tells me “I’m voting for Obama because he’ a brother”, I am running. And if he says ” Mitt, who dat is”, I am not going to stop running.
I think it sounds shallow i think what’s in the heart is more important than your brain power but i understand that intelligence is an attractive trait and also understand you’d put the majority of people off if you were as thick as a plank.